It feels like a movie scene. You matched 48 hours ago, and he’s already planning your summer road trip to the Amalfi Coast. He’s talking about "our" apartment, "our" dog, and how your kids would have his eyes.

You want to believe it. It feels amazing. It feels like fate.
But a quiet voice in the back of your head is asking: Is this real? Or am I being played?

"It’s likely Future Faking. And you are not crazy for noticing it."

What is Future Faking? (The Psychology)

Future Faking is a manipulation tactic where someone spins elaborate fantasies about a future life together to create a false sense of intimacy fast.

The goal isn't to actually go to Bali. The goal is the dopamine hit. They are selling you a dream of later to get you hooked now. It’s a common tactic used by narcissists, but also by people who just love the idea of falling in love more than the reality of it.

Graph comparing Healthy Intimacy vs Future Faking trajectories

FIG 1. Intimacy Velocity: The "Future Faking" Spike vs. Healthy Growth

The 5 Signs You’re Being Future Faked

1. The "We" Language Speedrun

If he’s using "We" statements ("We should totally live there") before he knows your middle name, slow down. Real intimacy is built brick by brick. Fake intimacy is a pop-up shop.

2. The Vacation Promise (The "Bali" Rule)

Why is it always Bali? Future Fakers love grand, expensive, vague travel plans. They are easy to say and harder to disprove... until the flight booking email never comes.

3. Mirroring Your Dreams

You mention you love hiking? Suddenly he loves hiking. You want 3 kids? He wants 3 kids. He isn't compatible; he’s a parrot. He’s reflecting your dream life back to you so you fall in love with yourself.

4. The Victim Narrative

"My ex was crazy. She didn't understand me. You're the only one who gets it."
This isolates you. It makes you feel special ("I'm the exception!") while painting him as the victim who just needs your love to be saved.

5. High Heat, Short Fuse

Future faking is exhausting to maintain. If you ask for a concrete detail ("What dates are we looking at for Bali?"), watch the energy shift. He’ll become defensive, vague, or ghost you entirely.

💡 The Glass Box Take

True compatibility is boring at first. It's asking about your day, not planning your wedding. If it feels like a rollercoaster, it's usually because there's a drop coming.

How to Check Your Reality (Without the Anxiety)

You shouldn't have to be a detective to date safely. But in a world of "love bombing," trusting your gut can be hard when your heart is racing.

That’s why we built Her Insight. It's not about "tracking" him; it's about validating you.

When you upload a screenshot to our Quick Read scanner, our AI looks for the patterns you might miss while you're wearing rose-colored glasses:

It’s the objective second opinion we all wish we had at 2 AM.

Trust your intuition. Verify the data.